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[omnia_mutantur]

so, sadly, still hung up on the icky letter.

on the other hand, we did in fact go out with my parents today and pick out their wedding gift to us. two weeks from yesterday, a giant table shall be delivered unto us. and then everyone will have to come over to play involved games and bask in its solidity.

on the other hand, turn it up had a handful of CDs i wanted. and faces had a cute little box in which to mail things to a neat person.

on the other hand, there's still this line of poetry in the world "There came a moment that you couldn't tell. / And then they clearly flew instead of fell."

on the other hand, Creme Brulee ice cream and Light playing Rez on the other end of the couch.

Comments

[d-aulnoy.livejournal.com]

I got an icky letter the other day, too. And I, too, am still hung up on it.

All the sympathy in the world, and hope that you post pictures of the table ....

[omnia-mutantur.livejournal.com]

Stupid icky letters. Want to get over mine for me, and I'll get over yours for you? I'm not having a lot of success on my own front.

in which I am little miss advice-pants

[oya-yansa.livejournal.com]

Some things to remember about the letter (I know, it's easy for me to say):

- The "general consensus" to which she refers is totally non-existent, and I can say that as someone who fell out of touch with you and wondered, with others who'd known you, what you were up to. No one thought that. I doubt even she thought it until she saw that you'd done exactly the opposite, and then she wanted to undermine all the happiness you referred to.

- That first sentence is so wantonly cruel as to establish that the whole purpose of the letter is to flaunt her supposed achievements in your face.

- Said achievements consist of dropping out of school and getting pregnant. I know people who did that at sixteen.

- She refers to her decision to be with her partner as "after
ruling out some other unsavory options decided that being together was really the best for us." Now perhaps she's just unwilling to get mushy in a letter to you, but can you imagine speaking about your husband this way? So cold. That cannot be a good relationship.

- She still talks to her ex every day and is "teaching for him" (? I didn't quite understand this). Like I said, not a good relationship. Her investment is clearly still with the ex, or that's what she wants you to think, and that's really really sad, that she bred with another man while still obsessed with her ex-boyfriend. She pretty much comes right out and says at the beginning that she wanted the ex's baby.

- And then she mocks your ambitions, and refers to what is a tax form, I believe, but makes it sound like a crucial grant or something. I've never seen someone drop the name of a form like it was a celebrity. Got much to prove?

- She is a total bitch.

That said, when I got the letter from an old friend in which she established that she was still, years later, fire-breathingly angry over the incident that ended our friendship, I was a wreck for a couple weeks. Give yourself some kind time in the wake of this. She's a really unhappy, spiteful person who's pissed off that anyone is happy when she's not. But that isn't going to let you un-read the letter. Be good to yourself.

(If you don't want to leave this comment up with its quotes from the letter, feel free to delete it.)

icky letters suck..

[autumnkitten.livejournal.com]

having just rec'd two letters from my ex-husband, one, i was expecting (the what happened, what influenced you and why did you leave letter..) and one i wasn't - the it's my (regarding him) fault but mostly it's really your (regarding me) fault.

yeah, those letters really leave warm fuzzy feelings inside me.

I just play Chumbawamba's song - i get knocked down, but i get up again, nothing can keep me down. enjoy the video :)

*hugs*

[electrolite37.livejournal.com]

From the other comments, it sounds like this letter isn't something you should be worried about, but sounds exactly like ths sort of letter that would drive me to madness and introspection. So, I guess the point is that I'm sorry you're upset but I understand why you're upset.

I recommend tea and books, though ice cream and a Light also sounds like a good solution. I just finished Reading Lolita in Tehran and it is most excellent. Or get something totally fluffy and fun.

[plumerai.livejournal.com]

Is the creme brulee ice cream one of the recipes, or purchased?

(You are an eloquent person and I have no doubt that the choice of the word "icky" speaks miles. I hope it drifts from your mind soon.)

[omnia-mutantur.livejournal.com]

Sadly, one of the key components of icky is its tacky texture, allowing it to cling like a burr rolled in paste.

Creme Brulee ice cream is a new Ben and Jerry's flavor. Normally, I try to limit myself to Stoneyfield Farms frozen yogurt, but this was too too good an idea to pass on trying the reality. My first bite made me whimper for joy.

you

[linaria.livejournal.com]

. have many things that I, for one, envy you for, and I am not a loser. so you must have accomplished something worth having, regardless of what anyone else thinks.

. should quit being despondent at least long enough to call me. i have things to bake you!

Re: you

[omnia-mutantur.livejournal.com]

come over tomorrow? (I will try and call later. I am girding my loins to go to lenscrafters at the moment)

Re: you

[linaria.livejournal.com]

thinking about it more, I really do think the letter is so extremely awkward because she was just trying to fit in as many thing as possible. although it still strikes me as being very full of self-hatred, she describes her own situation in really awful ways. but there is absolutely no excuse for that opening paragraph.

do you want me to go beat her with a big stick?